To be Alert

While watching the TV news last weekend focused on Bangalore and then Ahmadabad blasts, what we could see obviously was shock, panic and resolute citizens to help the affected and showing an instant spirit to fight terrorism. But will this enthusiasm last? Shall we ever get organized and consistent as well as disciplined to raise above all future threats so that no one can come in the way of our peace and progress?

In most of such cases it is temporary. And such short lasting steps by the authorities as well as by people like us leads to a wide scale frustration and pessimism in the society. We feel hopeless. This was quite evident when a news correspondent asked an apparently educated, high middle class gentleman at India Gate in New Delhi as why so many people still flock out of homes to visit public places on weekends when there is a red alert in the city? He simply replies- it is a part of life! One has to accept this reality, and accept whatever happens to us!

Why such a response? It reflects the mind of most of us in recent times. Are we assured of safety after we stay home for a few days? Is there any guarantee that things will be corrected once and forever if everyone complies with the red alert?

So, what is required is a consistent and everlasting approach by everyone o fight this menace. A well scheduled and regular program to tackle this problem is the only approach which can be successful. (It should be a software based program where nobody’s complacency can affect its ongoing implementation}

Here are certain issues which I could think in last couple of days, and would like to share with you-----

· Positive Energy in our reactions—what I could personally see in the American president’s actions against Afghanistan and Iraq was more of negativity than doing something constructive. The very approach from their side against that country, government and one particular community was full of bias and negativity...

· in my opinion, only positive energy and actions can correct such complex problems. One of my friends and senior executive in a corporate always advises me—rise well above your competitors and people surrounding you. Then no action of theirs can ever harm you or land you in any trouble. I know that in a complex situation like terrorism, it is very difficult to plan actions that making verbal suggestions. But it seems this is the reality.

· Viewing the events in last 3 days, it was apparent that making appeals to the public to be alert and aware was quite scattered. And worse was a lack of appreciation for people like one in Surat, who independently started thinking about a Maruti car which was lying in front of a general hospital for 2 odd hours which he enquired with local hospitals and then concluded that something is fishy about it. Such glaring examples of alertness should be promptly recognized, highlighted and appreciated in a way that each and every citizen is aware of such an incident.

· extending my view of such 3 Maruti cars being identified and then making conclusions that the numbers were of Baroda passing but fake and were of two wheelers. But why the story ends here? As far as my knowledge goes, it should take not more that 1 hour to trace the original owner of that vehicle from its distributors’ list. I hope that investigating agency must have done it but it should be made known to the public partially at least so that the informer feels some excitement and fulfillment that his alertness and actions is being followed by the agencies and what he has done is quite very important. Such scenario can encourage others to do the similar things.

· Further going to the matter of fake numbers, it was told by the media that this series of numbers- GJ 6 CD ---- is for two wheelers only. In fact this is a very important point and it makes things simpler for intelligence department. In most of the cases a vehicle has to pass a major road where a toll naka is there or a spot where there is police patrolling. Now the need is to update or link toll naka computer systems issuing tickets with RTO data, so that any fake number plate like this is instantly noticed. The system will reject a fake number of a two wheeler when issuing a ticket for a four wheeler. Even make of that vehicle can be linked with the RTO number, so that even amongst four wheelers, one can identify a fake number. Police posted for such patrolling should also be trained and equipped with such data, so as to make them efficient and prompt to detect a crime being executed at such an entry level.

· And record of toll naka can be helpful for tracing the route as well as precise timings of the movement of a suspected vehicle.

· Technology is the only one consistent tool with us along with resolute administration creating high morale across the departments and cadres. As it is well known that terrorist acts are implemented with a wide range of methods and that too in a highly unpredictable way, proper use of technology only can help us with high degree of accuracy and dependability. Why we are too slack in using it is a big question mark. Even if a phone call or an e mail is received and is being flashed repeatedly in media, there is no further progress beyond that in hours or days following it!

Viewby my friend Dr Harin Vadodariya

Power of Positive Talk

Power of Positive Talk
I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success .
One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree. I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did. Fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year- old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball. My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.

Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.
Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.

The point is made.

If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.

If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite."
People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.

My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism. These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.

Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction. So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, “I’m fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."

If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue.

Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words. Notice when you or other people use them.
Ø But: Negates any words that are stated before it.
Ø Try: Presupposes failure.
Ø If: Presupposes that you may not.
Ø Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener...
Ø Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
Ø Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)
Ø Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
Ø Can't/Don’t: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.

Examples:
Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: "Catch the ball!"
Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!"

Exercise: Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.

An Emergency Call to Save Ram Sethu

An Emergency Call to Save Ram Sethu

Sethusamudram Shipping Canal Project (SSCP) will destroy Ram Sethu and turn the Gulf of Mannar into an Ecological disaster.

We are sending out this S.O.S. to you in the hope that we can all come together in body, mind or prayer to help Save Ram Sethu.

The Supreme Court of India is hearing the Sethusamudram (SSCP) case from July 22 to July 29, 2008. The Indian Government headed by Prime Minister Manmohan Singh has filed an affidavit seeking permission to go ahead with the SSCP and submitting that the archaeological survey (ASI) is not important. The Government's turnaround - considering it had earlier suggested that the ASI is imperative – clearly indicates that the Government seems to be in a rush to execute a project that was first conceived not less than 144 years ago!

If the Supreme Court passes this case, the dredging of Ram Sethu is expected to begin right away. There are unconfirmed reports that Ram Sethu might be blasted with dynamite if dredging becomes difficult on the rough sea.

Save Ram Sethu Campaign takes strong exception to a wholly incorrect interpretation - an extreme distortion – of Hindu scriptures by lawyer Fali S. Nariman, who represented the Government of India before the Supreme Court on July 22 and reportedly quoted from "Kamba Ramayana" and "Padmapurana" and said that the destruction of the bridge by Lord Rama is mentioned therein.

Aside from the distastefulness of a lawyer of Mr. Nariman's stature distorting Hindu scriptures in an attempt to obtain favorable orders, Mr. Nariman's reference to Lord Rama as "superman" is blasphemous, scurrilous and an extreme distortion which we find insulting to our Hindu faith. Mr. Nariman should retract his statements and apologize to the Hindus.

Some months ago, the lawyers representing the Government had shocked the entire world by making a submission to the Supreme Court denying the very existence of Lord Rama. Now it has come up with a distorted interpretation from "Kamba Ramayana" and "Padmapurana" to justify the destruction of Ram Sethu for the sake of the SSCP. It seems to escape the Government's attention that historically or otherwise Ram Sethu is associated with Lord Rama and sacred to millions of Hindus in India and abroad.

We must act now to protect our sacred heritage from greedy, mindless destruction. We are imploring you to do the right thing - and the right thing is preserving Ram Sethu for current and future generations. Men with machines can destroy in minutes what can never be replaced. Do we want to be remembered as the people who were able to stop the destruction, or the people who allowed it to proceed?

We are a proud and ancient civilization and we must rise to the occasion against all impossibilities. We must salvage and wrest our rightful and magnificent heritage from the forces of ignorance, arrogance and greed.

When the Taliban destroyed the Bamiyan statues, the world reacted with horror at their act of barbarism. What the Indian Government proposes to do to Ram Sethu is no less barbaric.Â

This threat to our religion is more than real and right on our threshold!

Please act now

We are looking for one million supporters willing to take a stand and not allow a syndicate of politicians and vested interests defile our sacred heritage. Can we count on you? Please call Indian Government representatives, Embassies and High Commissions in your area and register your opposition by phone and fax.

Please forward this to others, especially the youth, and ask them to get involved in protecting our religion.

Let the Indian Government know that destroying our Religious heritage for the profit of a few is unethical and the Government has no right to indiscriminately & selectively destroy it. Ram Sethu is our heritage and our history and we owe its protection and preservation to our future generations. The world is waiting and watching.

Rose

How To Plant Your Garden

Hope this gets to you ... it's one of the Best ones...hope you enjoy.
......for those that garden....this is lovely........for those that don't......you will still enjoy this!!!!!!!




How To Plant Your Garden

First, you Come to the garden alone, while the dew is still on the roses....

FOR THE GARDEN OF YOUR DAILY LIVING, PLANT THREE ROWS OF PEAS:





1. Peace of mind
2. Peace of heart
3. Peace of soul



PLANT FOUR ROWS OF S! QUASH:

1. Squash gossip
2. Squash indifference
3. Squash grumbling
4. Squash selfishness

PLANT FOUR ROWS OF LETTUCE:

1. Lettuce be faithful

2. Lettuce be kind
3. Lettuce be patient
4. Lettuce really love one another


NO GARDEN IS WITHOUT TURNIPS:



1. Turnip for meetings
2. Turnip for service
3. Turnip to help one another


TO CONCLUDE OUR GARDEN WE MUST HAVE THYME:



1. Thyme for each other
2.. Thyme for family
3. Thyme for friends




WATER FREELY WITH PATIENCE AND CULTIVATE WITH LOVE. THERE IS MUCH FRUIT IN YOUR GARDEN BECAUSE YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.

Terror in India

By now, all news media have given full accounts of the way terror has been stalking the country without any fear. The terrorist strikes in Bangalore and Ahmedabad on two successive days on 25th and 26th July 2008 have been condemned and the inaction of the Govt. has been strongly denounced by all the media and people at large.

And yet, the Governments of the day, whether at the State level or the Central level continue to demonstrate their impotence before and after each strike. THE STATE seems to be benumbed and to all intents and purposes continues to show scant regard not only for human lives but the threats to the very integrity and peace and harmony of the country.

For every terror strike, the primary responsibility remains that of the State Govt. and no amount of efforts to pass the buck on to the Center can diminish the responsibility of the State Governments for their failure to protect the lives and limbs of the residents of that State. The State Govt. is primarily responsible for law and order and it’s the best judge of the ground conditions in the State. It is the State Govt. that has to develop its own strong intelligence network and also have an inter-state mechanism to share such intelligence. If fear has to be instilled in the would-be terrorists in the State, it is the State Govt. that is primarily in a position to do so. The State Govt.s do not appear to have any programs to provide specialized anti-terrorist training, if need be, with help from foreign countries, to its police force and create a strong cadre for such anti-terrorist operations. Nor do the State Govt.s have even a basic policy of giving monetary rewards for informants, not only after an act of terror but at all times.

Therefore, in the case of Gujarat in particular, where the Gujarat Chief Minister has been daring the Terrorists all along shouting from roof tops, the blasts in Ahmedabad show that the terrorists are able to commit their anti-national acts anywhere and any time of their own choosing.

Most of the blame in case of the Terror attacks in Gujarat rests on the State Govt. who in over confidence and bravado has been caught napping. By all accounts so far, the execution of the plots was completely in the hands of people residing within the country. Unless the State Govt.s themselves develop a clear no-tolerance policy, any amount of help by the Central Govt. is bound to fail.

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Having said all this, one must examine the total failure of the Union Home Ministry to take steps that are in its own power to take. Over the last few years the Central Govt. has shown a complete lack of sensitivity and seriousness and utter incompetence in creating an overall atmosphere that instills fear in the minds of terrorists. The firm actions taken by the USA after the terrorist attacks on its soil on July 11, 2001, are there for all to see. The Govt. of India just does not have even the will to state its policy, if there is one, on terror. If the Union Govt. is at all serious about rooting out terrorism from the country, there is nothing to stop it from taking actions and if at all it has to give directions to the States on the subject, the States are bound to listen and follow. Instead of first defining its stance and policy on terror clearly, the Govt. continues to issue wish-washy statements that have ceased to carry any meaning even for the people at large, let alone the terrorist elements. The Govt. is now talking of having a federal agency. Such proliefration of new agencies will have no effect or impact because of enormous problems of co-ordination which are mainfest even within the existing agencies. The talk of such an agency is just to show that the Govt. is serious when it is not.

All the actions or inactions of the Central Govt. so far show that far from being serious about rooting out terrorists, it actually does everything that achieves exactly the opposite and emboldens the anti-national elements.

The case of Afzal Guru is a case in point. Quite inexplicably, the Govt. has been sitting on his application for clemency for years. There is no logical or plausible explanation, at least in the eyes of the public why the Govt. cannot take a decision. The only conclusion possible is that the Govt. has made up its mind either to grant clemency or wait to give the terrorists a suitable opportunity when they can secure the release of Afzal Guru in exchange as was done in case of other terrorists.

No less intriguing is the absolute cussedness of the Central Govt. in not approving laws passed by certain State Legislatures, who in their wisdom think that such laws will help them to better support their own actions to tackle terrorism.

The level of intelligence gathered by the Central agencies also continues to be of poor quality and beyond giving regular cautionary advices to the States ‘crying wolf’, no specific intelligence seems to be provided either to the Central Govt. or to the State Govt.

It is common knowledge that hundreds of thousands of Bangladeshis are entering the country illegally and are even able to secure official papers of residence. However, the hear-nothing, do-nothing Home Ministry does not even have an estimate or assessment of Bangladeshis entering illegally. It is common knowledge that in the commercial capital of the country Mumbai, thousands of illegal aliens were helped in getting papers by a Congress MP in the city. It is also known that some suburban areas around the periphery of Mumbai have become a favorite abode of criminal and anti national elements and so has Navi Mumbai. It is also generally recognized that many of the terrorists who have executed operations in the country in the last few years have used the Bangladesh route to enter or are Bangladeshis.

Such incidents raise legitimate questions in the minds of the people whether the Central Govt. is deliberately taking a soft line or is simply impotent and incompetent.

The continuance of a ‘Softee’ Shivraj Patil in the position of Home Minister lends strong credence to the perception that Govt. has not grasped the seriousness of the situation. In the history of the democratic Governments in the country, a more docile and incompetent Home Minister has never been seen. His removal from the Ministry will send the first signal that the Govt. recognizes his failure to do anything worthwhile in the crucial Ministry.

The Central Government has failed utterly and completely to inspire confidence in the people that the integrity of the country is safe in its hands.

There are two options to Terror. The first is to have zero tolerance and to deal with the terrorist elements ruthlessly. The second is to do nothing, by taking the view that that in a country of over a billion people, human lives have no meaning and hope and pray that the terrorists, if they are ignored, will tire themselves out. India seems to have adopted the second approach.

Evidences of Lord Ram abd his Visit To Lanka

You are wonderful !!

The following story captured our heart. It happened several years ago in the Paris opera house. A famous singer had been contracted to sing, and ticket sales werebooming. In fact, the night of the concert found the house packed and every ticket sold.

The feeling of anticipation and excitement was in the air as the house manager took the stage and said, Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for your enthusiastic support. I am afraid that due to illness, the man whom you've all come to hear will not be performing tonight. However, we have found a suitable substitute we hope will provide you with comparable entertainment.

The crowd groaned in disappointmentand failed to hear the announcer mention the stand-in's name. The environment turned from excitement to frustration.

The stand-in performer gave the performance everything he had. When he had finished,there was nothing but an uncomfortable silence. No one applauded. Suddenly, from the balcony, a little boy stood up and shouted, Daddy, I think you are wonderful! The crowd broke into thunderous applause.

We all need people in our Lives who are willing to stand up once in a while and say, I think you are wonderful.

And at times others are expecting this from you.

Are you telling them how wonderful you are . . .??????????

Say it now and make someone's day more pleasant.

Dhanalakshmi Raja (30) in Nagaiputhur village,

Belying the Tamil saying to the effect, 'even a soldier shivers at the sight of a snake', Dhanalakshmi Raja (30) in Nagaiputhur village, 240 km from Madurai, treated a wounded cobra lying in bushes near her home, on April 27, 2008. The snake was wriggling in pain. As a devotee of 'naga devatha' or god of snakes, she took the reptile to the nearby Muneeeswara temple. "My intuition suggested I should feed it with milk. But the snake was not in a position to drink since it had sustained injury on its head. It was then that the idea of feeding it with the help of a syringe struck me," she said. Soon she started nursing the wounds by applying antiseptic creams. However, it attracted opposition from the locals who wanted her to leave the snake back into the grove. "It did not allow anybody except Dhanalakshmi to come near. Devotees visiting the temple were scared," said Bhoopathy, a villager. Unperturbed, the woman stuck to her syringe. She wanted to 'discharge' her patient only after it got cured completely. PTI, May 5, 2008.

N Anand, fondly called "Bussy" Anand,

N Anand, fondly called "Bussy" Anand, is a busy man. A first-time MLA, he was elected from the Bussy assembly constituency in the Union territory of Puducherry in 2006 and hence the prefix. And when the 44-year-old legislator of Puducherry Munnetra Congress is not pushing for schemes, meeting voters or discussing local politics over a cuppa, he's clearing garbage, cleaning clogged drains and spraying mosquito repellent across the town. And he does this with his own money, spending Rs 75,000 to Rs 85,000 every month from his earnings. Anand's dual role began nine years ago when, disappointed with the government's slack conservancy work, he started a garbage collection unit of his own. Since then, he has been going to the 'field' himself, undertaking door-to-door collection of garbage from all households in his constituency. Anand's unit, which started with a single tricycle and two men in 1999, has 14 members today, equipped with four tricycles and gadgets "to carry out our mission". So much so that residents refuse to hand over garbage to the government conservancy staff and wait for Anand's unit every morning. Based on a report in THE TIMES OF INDIA, Chennai, June 16, 2008

Indian women team

Indian women team today withdrew from the beach volleyball championship in the four-day event being held at the elliots beach, Chennai, India, after it refused to adhere to the international volleyball federation dress code, stipulating wearing just top and garment. Indian team's withdrawal from the chennai challenger tournament later led to cancellation of the qualifying event. "The Indian players expressed reservations on wearing just a top and under garment as stipulated by the international volleyball federation," Martin Sudhakar, tournament director said. The tournament offers 6,400 US dollars (Rs. 2,88,000) for the winning team. (Based on a PTI report on July 17, 2008). IMPORTANT: The Indian women players were firm on their stand. Later in the day, they were allowed to play, wearing the dress befitting Indian ambience. Reported THE NEW INDIAN EXPRESS, Chennai, on July 18: "The organizers of the tournament `softened their stand and permitted Indian women players to compete in their traditional jersey and knee-length shots, taking into consideration the social and religious sentiments,' Martin said."

Valayappatti

Valayappatti near Srivilliputtur, Virudunagar district (Tamilnadu, Bharat) has a few 100 – year habits: No one smokes bidi or cigarette nor use tobacco. The villagers have never approached police help to solve problems. Village elders do it. The Village panchayat chief is elected by unanimous decision.. To cap it all, the youth in the village say they want to take all this to the next generation. There are 200 families, all agriculturists.

Based on a report in DINAMALAR, July 12, 2008.

Gurupuja

Founder of Rashtriya Swayamsevak sangh, Dr. Hedgewar was poor but never sought a job as his full time was engaged in ccc work. However, he functioned as an LIC doctor, issuing certificates to policy holders, for a monthly salary of Rs. 30 for 4 months, unable to decline the request of Swayamsevaks, but offered all his earnings of Rs 120 before sacred saffron flag on Guru Pooja day. 2. A poor Vanavasi boy was working as a help at Rs. 60 a month in a vanavasi hostel run by Swayamsevaks. He had studied only upto 4^th standard. Once an RSS Pracharak visited the hostel. The boy found out that though an M.Sc , LL. B., the pracharak worked for RSS expecting nothing in return. It inspired the boy. Then on, he worked at the hostel for 15 years without accepting any money. (Both anecdotes were narrated by Shri Mohanji Bhagwat, RSS Sarkaryawah at the South Chennai Guru Pooja function on July 20, 2008).

My mother used to ask me: "What is the most important part of the body?"

My mother used to ask me: "What is the most important part of the body?"

Through the years I would take a guess at what I thought was the correct answer. When I was younger, I thought sound was very important to us as humans, so I said, "My ears, Mommy."

Mother said, "No Many people are deaf. But you keep thinking about it and I will ask you again soon."

Several years passed before she asked me again. Since making my first attempt, I had contemplated the correct answer. So this time I told her, "Mommy, sight is very important to everybody, so it must be our eyes." Mother looked at me and told me, "You are learning fast, but the answer is not correct because there are many people who are blind."

Stumped again, I continued my quest for knowledge. Over the years, Mother asked me a couple more times and always her answer was, "No, but you are getting smarter every year, my child."

Then last year, my grandpa died. Everybody was hurt. Everybody was crying. Even my father cried. I remember that especially because it was only the second time I saw him cry. My Mom looked at me when it was our turn to say our final good-bye to Grandpa.

Mother asked me, "Do you know the most important body part yet, my dear?"

I was shocked when she asked me this now. I always thought this was a game between her and me. Mother saw the confusion on my face and told me, "This question is very important. It shows that you have really lived in your life. For every body part you gave me in the past, I have told you was wrong and I have given you an example why. But today is the day you need to learn this important lesson."

Mother looked down at me as only a mother can. I saw her eyes well up with tears. Mother said, "My dear, the most important body part is your shoulder."

I asked, "Is it because it holds up my head?"

Mother replied, "No, it is because it can hold the head of a friend or a loved one when they cry. Everybody needs a shoulder to cry on sometime in life, my dear. I only hope that you have enough love and friends that you will always have a shoulder to cry on when you need it."

Then and there I knew the most important body part is not a selfish one. It is sympathetic to the pain of others. People will forget what you said... People will forget what you did.... But people will NEVER forget how you made them feel.

True or not, the story makes you stop and think. Be blessed. Be a blessing. Get your shoulder ready.

Deep Thoughts

Rare Photographs of Indian History

Women gather at a party in Mumbai (Bombay) in 1910.jpg

The Imperial Airways 'Hanno' Hadley Page passenger airplane carries the England to India air mail, s

The Grand Trunk Road, built by Sher Shah Suri, was the main trade route from Calcutta to Kabul.jpg

The daughter of an Indian maharajah seated on a panther she shot, sometime during 1920s.jpg

An aerial view of Jama Masjid mosque in Delhi, built between 1650 and 1658..jpg

A rare view of the President's palace and the Parliament building in New Delhi.jpg

A group of Dancing or nautch girls began performing with their elaborate costumes and jewelry.jpg

A group from Vaishnava, a sect founded by a Hindu mystic. His followers are called Gosvami-maharajah

Albert Einstein

Albert Einstein (March 14, 1879 – April 18, 1955) was a German-born theoretical physicist. He is best known for his theory of relativity and specifically mass–energy equivalence, E = mc 2. Einstein received the 1921 Nobel Prize in Physics ”for his services to Theoretical Physics, and especially for his discovery of the law of the photoelectric effect.”
Einstein’s many contributions to physics include his special theory of relativity, which reconciled mechanics with electromagnetism, and his general theory of relativity, which extended the principle of relativity to non-uniform motion, creating a new theory of gravitation. His other contributions include relativistic cosmology, capillary action, critical opalescence, classical problems of statistical mechanics and their application to quantum theory, an explanation of the Brownian movement of molecules, atomic transition probabilities, the quantum theory of a monatomic gas, thermal properties oflight with low radiation density (which laid the foundation for the photon theory), a theory of radiation including stimulated emission, the conception of a unified field theory, and the geometrization of physics.

Wooden Art

quotes

Smile is a cooling system of heart,sparkling system of eyes, lighting system of face, relaxing system of mind. So activate all ur system n keep smiling

Science does not work everywhere, because the time taken for love someone is never equal to the time taken to forget them.

Management Proverb: A Dog will not hurt you, if u beat it with a bone. So use the right weapon to handle people.

Quality of life depends on the quality of thought and the quality of thought depends on how quality of people around you.

If we both exchange one dollar, we both have one dollar each, but if we exchange one good thought, we both have two good thoughts.

Great people like us operate on the principle of rockets. Not that we aim for the sky, but until and unless our ass is on fire, we are not going to work

If you believe in what you are doing, then let nothing hold you up in your work. Much of the best work of the world has been done against impossibilities.

Truth of Life: Being a good person is like being a goal-keeper. No matter how many goals we save, people will remember only the ones we miss.

Human=Eat + Sleep + Work + Enjoy, Pigs=Eat + Sleep, so Human=Pigs + work + enjoy, So Human-enjoy= Pigs + work. Conclusion: Humans who don’t enjoy are Pigs at work. So enjoy.

The permanent temptation of life is to confuse dreams with reality, but the permanent defeat of life comes when we surrender our dreams to the reality.

Two ways to be happy in the life: Never give the help of tears to your emotions. Never give the help of words to your anger.

Every Relation is like cardiogram. It always have ups and downs in graphs. If it is steady, it dies. So accept the ups and downs positively.

The biggest enemy of 'best' is 'good'. If your are satisfied with what is good enough, you will never have what is the best.

I may be walking slowly, but I never wals backwards. Whenever I walk backwards, it is for the long jump.

First step in acquiring wisdom is silence, the second is listening, the third is memory, the fourth is practice and fifth is teaching others.

If you love someone: Show it. It is better than to tell it. If you hate someone. Tell it. It is better than showing it.

Human=Eat + Sleep + Work + Enjoy. Pigs=Eat + Sleep, So Human=Pigs + Work + Enjoy, so Human-Enjoy=Pigs + work. Conclusion: Humans who don’t enjoy are pigs at work. So enjoy.

Life is all about a card game. Choosing the right cards is not in your hand, but playing well with the cards in hand determines our suceess.

Success is a tasty dish. Patience, Intelligence, Talent and Ability are ingredients, but Hard Work is that like salt that makes it edible.

Enjoy the little things in life for one day you may look back and realise that they were big things and that you missed to enjoy

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

Stand by your loved one in their mistakes, but make sure that it is the loved one and not the mistake you are standing by

Don’t complaint about others, try to change yourself, if you want peace, because it is easy to protect your feet with footwear, than to cover the floor with carpet.

While dad was polishing his new car, his four year daughter picked up a stone andscratched on the side of the car. In anger, he took the child's hand and hit it many times, not realizing he was using a sharp tool. At the hospital his child said: Dad, when will my fingers grow back ? Dad was so hurt. He went back to the car and kicked it a lot of times. Sitting back he looked at the scratches the girl had written: "I love you, Dad." Moral: Anger and love have no limits.

Every morning in Africa a deer wakes up. It knows that it must run faster than the fastest lion or it will be killed. Every morning a lion wakes up. It knows that it must run faster than the slowest deer or it will starve to death. It does not matter, if you are a lion or a deer, whn the sun comes up, you should better be running.

We are like tea bags, whose true strength come out when we are put in hot water. So when problems upset you, you must be God's favourite cup of tea.

All beautiful things start from the heart. All bad things start from the mind. Never let the mind rule your heart. Let the heart rule your mind.

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not always trust the person who you love, but you can always love the person whom you trust.

Life is a rope that swings through the hope. Believe today is better than yesterday and tomorrow will be much better than today. Enjoy every moment of life.

Apne Ishwar ko ye mat batao ki aapki takleef kitni badi hai. Takleef ko ye bata do ki aapka Ishwar kitana bada hai

How To Teach Your Child Manners

How To Teach Your Child Manners

The most difficult period of upbringing a child is when you have to teach him good manners and behavior. You need to have a lot of patience and tolerance to make sure you do not end up losing your temper and making a mess out of it. Though it is impossible to train toddlers, you need to slowly start telling your kid what is good and what is bad when he/she starts to grow up. It will not only make hi a responsible adult in future, but also ensure that you, as a parent are successful in the good upbringing of the kid.

Tips for Teaching Good Manners to Your Child

Your children will set you as their role model. Unless you are at your best behavior, you cannot expect the child to be at his best behavior. So, set a good example for your children and portray a behavior that you would want them to follow.

It is not possible to teach the child everything in one go. It is only as and when the child matures that he is able to understand things the way they are. Teach basic manners and train the child when he is around 3 years old; then move on to instilling etiquettes and politeness. Do not expect a two year old to stop chewing with his mouth open because you said so.

If you want your child to talk politely, do that yourself.Use words like 'thank you', 'sorry', etc. yourself. When you do that, you are encouraging the child to do that too. Take care of what language you use, since children tend to imitate how adults speak.

Teach your child to talk to others with respect. Ask them to call your friends by adding Mr. or Ms. before their name. Teach the kid how to shake hands and smile and answer when asked something. Also, train the kid how to behave when in public or at someone else's home.

If your child behaves in a bad way, do not ignore it. Take the child to a corner and talk about it there and then. Address bad behavior as soon as it is exhibited. If the child breaks a rule, do not reprimand but do address the issue in a firm manner. Never ever reprimand or scold the child in front of others.

Do not keep advising your child about good behavior. If he does exhibit it, appreciate him and acknowledge the behavior. This will encourage the child to take you even more seriously and be at his best behavior always.

Be heroes

Your country requires heroes; be heroes. Stand firm like a rock. Truth always triumphs. What India wants is a new electric fire to stir up a fresh vigour in the national veins. Be brave, be brave; man dies but once. My disciples must not be cowards. I hate cowardice. Keep up the deepest mental poise; take not even the slightest notice of what puerile creatures may be saying against you. Indifference! Indifference! Indifference! Bear in mind the eyes are two in number, and so the ears, but the mouth is but one. All great undertakings are achieved through mighty obstacles. Put forth your manly effort. Wretched people under the grip of lust and gold deserve to be looked upon with indifference.

What makes you weep, my friend? In you is all power. Summon up your all-powerful nature, oh, mighty one! and this whole universe will lie at your feet. It is the Self alone that predominates and not matter. It is those foolish people who identify themselves with their bodies that piteously cry, 'Weak,weak, we are weak'. What the nation wants is pluck and scientific genius. We want great spirit, tremendous energy and boundless enthusiasm; no womanishness will do. It is the man of action, the lionheart that the goddess of wealth resorts to.

No need of looking behind. Forward! We want infinite energy, infinite zeal, infinite courage, and infinite patience; then only will great things will be achieved.

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Vedanta recognizes no sin, it only recognizes error; and the greatest error, says the Vedanta, is to say that you are weak, that you are a sinner, a miserable creature and that you have no power and you cannot do this or that.

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Strength is life, weakness is death; strength is felicity, life eternal, immortal! Weakness is constant strain and misery. Weakness is death. Let positive, strong, helpful thoughts enter into your brains from very childhood.

Brocken finger

A man once went to see a doctor complaining of aches and pains all over his body.

"Doctor my whole body hurts me," he moaned. The doctor asked him to show exactly where the pain was.

The man explained, "When I touch my shoulder, it hurts. When I touch my back it hurts. When I touch my legs, they hurt."

The doctor did a thorough examination and told the man-

"Sir, there is nothing wrong with your body. Your finger is broken. That is why it hurts wherever you touch. Get your finger plastered, rest it for a couple of weeks and all of your pains will disappear."!!

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SPIRITUAL COMMENTARY

In life so frequently it is our own perspective that causes us pain or pleasure.

As we go through life "feeling" the world with our fingers, if our finger is broken naturally we will experience pain everywhere. But,

we make the mistake of blaming the external world for our ailments: "My job is over-taxing, my husband is too demanding, my wife nags, my children are disobedient, my in-laws don't understand me, etc. etc."

But if you look throughout the world you will be able to find someone who has the same type of job, but is calm, or someone who has the same type of spouse but is happy, or someone who has the same type of children but is patient, or someone who has the same type of in-laws but is grateful.

What is it that allows 2 people to experience the same external situation but respond in 2 different ways?

Our own perspective. Our own perception.The key, then, is not to try to change every situation in our life, but rather to change the glasses through which we see the world.

Sure, if we have a fixable situation at the office or at home, we should definitely do our best to improve it. But, what we have observed is that if someone has the nature to be dissatisfied, or the nature to be stressed, or the nature to be pained, that person's nature is not going to change simply by changing the external situation.

A massage for the back or shoulder or legs would not help the man in our earlier example because it is his finger which is broken. He could spend hundreds of dollars to ease the pain in his body, but unless he puts his broken finger in a splint, he will continue to experience pain every time that finger touches the various parts of his body.

Similarly, we run around through life trying to "fix" our jobs or marriages or family life, but frequently the reality is in our own perspective. If we spend the same amount of energy "fixing" our perspective as we spend trying to "fix" our spouse or children,everything would be fine.

This is not to say that pains and troubles don't really exist in our day to day life. Of course they do.The man in our example may also have a stiff back or sore shoulders. But the excruciating pain he experienced was due not to the minor aches and pains in his body, but due to the severely broken finger with which he was touching them.

Similarly, our jobs and our families are taxing. They demand a lot of us. But the unbearable pain many of us experience is due not to the demands and commands from without, but due to the demands and commands from within ourselves.

In the Gita it is said that we are our best friend and also our own worst enemy, depending upon how we live our lives.

In this New Year,let us all take some time to examine what our own personal "broken finger" is.

What is it within ourselves that causes us to experience pain in the world? What irrational fear, what unfulfillable desire, what selfish motive, what ego-driven need has broken the finger with which we feel the world or has colored the glasses with which we see? We spend so much time examining others, but very little time examining our own selves.

The Source of all joy and peace lies within us.

We are blocked from that Source by a host of desires, fears and ignorance.

The key to finding and tapping into that Source must come from within.

Let us find the key within ourselves and unleash the Ocean of Divine Bliss in our lives!!